Secret Single Behavior
This entry comes thanks to my blogging friend Shea and what she calls "Secret Single Behavior." Most women probably know what that behavior might include. It’s those things you do for yourself in the solitude and privacy of your own home, when you are single, that is. I say that because in commenting on her entry, I mentioned that secret single behavior should be treasured while it lasts. I can’t remember the last time I took a long relaxing bubble bath, surrounded by candles and a glass of wine that I wasn’t worried would be knocked over should some 3 year old come barging in on my Talgon moment announcing that he has soiled his diaper. Or when was the last time I walked around the house nekked? And oh the thought of having a linen closet all to myself once again. A place to store all my secret single behavior paraphernalia. Now I’m reduced to about 12 inches of shelf space right next to the Desitin ointment and baby wipes. The loofahs and aeromatherapy bath oils in my tub have been replaced with Winnie the Pooh splash island and Cookie Monster bubble bath. Romance novels in my bedroom have been replaced with Curious George and that man with the yellow hat, who is he anyway? Weekend afternoons are now consisted of park playdates, fingerpainting and playdoh instead of a quiet stroll of window shopping or curling up with a good book.
On the otherside of the coin, I get daily butterfly kisses, eskimo kisses and the security that my future beyond being single has arrived. I guess what’s next is Secret Senior Behavior, huh?
I know what you mean. I have no time for myself. Sometimes, I wish there was a way to add a few extra hours to just the “mom’s” schedule and everyone else’s stayed the same. Wouldn’t it be cool to have dinner ready before 7 pm and the laundry done before sunday night? Just a few hours a day more than everyone else —is that too much to ask for?
Gosh, I envy you and Shea – I’m neither single anymore and I don’t have children yet. I do love the days when hubby is off doing something and I have alone time…(can we call that Secret Married Behavior? :)… but I can’t wait for the day when I can get daily butterfly kisses 🙂
I am 32 and recently left a fiance- I think the longer I stay single the scarier looking marriage gets; the freedom from cohabitation just feels too darn good! Guess I haven’t found the just-right-for-me person and time yet.
I get to plan my own day but I don’t have a buddy to share my adventures and I don’t have a snuggle-bug at night.
where are you?